Loving Someone Who Has Dementia: How to Find Hope while Coping with Stress and Grief
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| Rating | : | 4.32 (856 Votes) |
| Asin | : | 1118002296 |
| Format Type | : | paperback |
| Number of Pages | : | 256 Pages |
| Publish Date | : | 2015-03-01 |
| Language | : | English |
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Boss gives you the tools you need to embrace rather than resist the ambiguity in your relationship with someone who has dementia.Praise for Loving Someone Who Has Dementia"Pauline Boss's book is a revelation about how to live with a profoundly changed relationship that, despite dementia, remains a relationship. Written in easy-to-understand conversational language, this vital resource is based on solid research and years of clinical practice. Dr. Pauline Boss outlines seven guidelines for staying resilient while caring for someone who has dementia and offers hope when experiencing "ambiguous loss"—having a loved one both here and not here, physically present but psychologically absent. From the Back CoverLoving Someone Who Has Dementia is a much-needed guide that offers proven strategies for managing ongoing stress and grief. Boss writes with the wisdom of a scholar and the warmth of a family therapist."&
She is best known for her groundbreaking research as the pioneer theorist and clinical practitioner of stress reduction for people whose loved ones are ambiguously lost.. Pauline Boss, PhD, is emeritus professor at the University of Minnesota and was visiting professor at Harvard Medical School, 1995–1996, and Hunter School of Social Work, 2004–2005
In the case of dementia, the ambiguity will likely not lessen, but in this book, I tell you how to increase your tolerance for it. She shows you a way to embrace rather than resist the ambiguity in your relationship with someone who has dementia. Q&A with the Author Author Pauline Boss What is meant by the term "ambiguous loss"? Ambiguous loss is simply an unclear loss. It is a term I coined in the 1970's to label the all too common experience of having a loved one disappear without evidence of whereabouts or being dead or alive. While research is slim, and more is surely needed to break the no-talk taboo, clinicians know that many couples affected by dementia continue to be intimate. But how they do this varies. My favorite radio program back then was, “Mr. Later on, that grandmother, Elsbeth Hammerlie-Elmer, to whom I dedicate this book, suffered from what was then called senile dementia. Such disappearance can be physical, as in the case of a loved one gone missing, or psychological, as in the case of dementia when memory and emotion fade away. Because I lived with ambiguous loss, I became curious early in my life about the mystery of loved ones being gone psychologically. There must be some awareness—and acceptance—of what is going on. First, individuals and couples vary widely in their desire to continue or stop having sexual relations. How did you come to be interested in the concept of ambiguous
Busy Mom said An excellent book for caregivers. This book doesn't tell you how to get your Dad to take a shower. It doesn't tell you how to take the car keys away from your mother. It doesn't tell you when it's time for assisted living or nursing home care. Instead, it tells you how not to go crazy right along with your loved one. Actually, it helps you understand that you aren't crazy -- the conflicting emotions you're feeling are normal.The tone of this book is a bit medical and formal at times, but not so much that a tired mom caring for her aging mother-in-law with alzheimers can't read it. I have to admit that I was a bit disappointed at first that this book wasn't going to help us fi. Help for Caregivers of Those with Dementia This is a fantastic book. I wish that it had been available when my mother was diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease several years ago. I am giving my copy to a friend who, after reading it immediately, will mail it to another friend whose mother has just been diagnosed with this horrendous disease. Dr. Boss' emphasis is on the caregiver rather than the patient and what the caregiver can do in order to be both more effective ("isolation leads to higher burden and depression for caregivers--and in turn, this leads to more behavioral problems in the person who has dementia") and survive with his/her own life intact. The author gives a sobering sta. Extremely helpful My wife has the disease and as it progresses, there are times that I have a lot of difficulty dealing with the associated behavior. This book is outstanding in helping to get a grip on what is happening to my wonderful 50 year partner. I have more understanding of the anquish she is going through. I downloaded to the Kindle app and could highlight passages that were important to me. Now when I start to get down, I simply scan through the highlights in 10 min and get myself righted. I highly recommend this book for someone struggling with a loved one who has dementia.